S.Chow-You are exaclty right. The Canadian Red Cross Bullying and Harrassment Prevention Program trains and educates youth to deliver bullying prevention education to younger students. Ask your school if they have this program. If they don't, then ask them to get in touch with us-www.redcross.ca/respected or firstname.lastname@example.org
Thanks, Tabatha. Yes the nature of technology--like social media--create an environment different from face to face. In social media, the "enviroment" & "others" are more abstract--people feel others are less real or that the rules in the rest of the real world don't apply. This causes a situation researchers call "disinhibition" where people do things they wouldn't necessarily do in real life.
Thanks for joining us MediatedReality! For those of you who haven't heard of him Jesse Miller talks to school kids about how transparent the web is.
I think we need to keep connecting what goes on in cyberspace to the "real". Another issue is the apparent anonymity people think they have online. I say apparent because people share just way to many details to stay anonymous for long. I helped one SD in the US track down a Twitter account using their logo
@MediatedReality In the case of the Kent County Council eg. that I tout to all who'll listen--their board is entirely volunteer driven.
@MediatedReality --in Kent County--at least as far as their e-safety work is concerned.
There is definitely a pattern of the bullies ending up as victors and bullied kids as the victims.
Back to Tabitha's question though, one thing today's parents MUST understand is that cyberbullying is significantly different than school-yard bullying--it's 24/7 and will follow a kid around. There is not getting away from it.
I know Theoren Fluery , the former hockey player who was sexually abused by a hockey coach, works hard to encourage young people to go from Victim to VICTOR! Anyone have suggestions ?
If there is one piece of advice I could give a parent who's child is experiencing cyberbullying, please don't think that telling them to "Just turn off the computer/ipod--or sign out of Facebook" will be a solution.
It is important for all adults and youth to understand the power they have to intervene. When someone intervenes in a bullying situation within the first 10 seconds, the bullying will stop in over 50% of the cases. Let's give our youth the tools they need to intervene safely so those being targeted by the bullying don't get to the point where they feel they need to leave their school.
You and your child are not alone in what you have experienced. Schools typically are at a loss about what to do that is effective and supports the victim. It is heartbreaking for parents to see their child suffering, because bullying does have a serious impact. I suggest you continue to offer a supportive environment for your child and hopefully your child will find other friends in other settings. It is important for the child not to see himself/herself as the problem -- it is the bully's problem.
Charlene there are lots of people who talk to kids about bullying at schools. Jesse if you're still with us perhaps you have some suggestions ..you being the first one!
Also Julia .. you go to School Districts and teach educators ..do you also talk to kids ?
Very good question MFraser .... Wanda ?
Charlene-This is a service we provide in collaboration with schools. Speak to your child's school about getting Canadian Red Cross Anti-Bullying programming or visit www.redcross.ca/respected or www.imaginenobullying.ca
I do go out to districts and speak to kids--I also speak to teachers and administrators. I'm hoping to do more with parents and communities. We need a more wholistic and integrated approach then we've been used to with regard to this topic
Stopping social media is not a real solution. I recommend teaching your child how to use social media effectively and in kind ways. We also need to have such programs in schools. If we remove the child from the media, they feel isolated in other ways, and usually find a way to get back on, away from the parents' eyes and this can be more devastating.
@M. Fraser--unless your child is in direct danger, please don't stop them using social media. Work with them--have them post through you--speak out loud why you post or don't post content. If we don't train them who will?
Yes david there are lots of websites
Karen, Wanda, Julia and Jesse ...would you mind putting your weblinks in again! Please and thanks!
Often the cyberbully was a victim first. This is why it is important to get the root of the problem, not just look at the symptoms. In my research, the bullying behaviour was usually precipitated by some negative social interaction at school, and then that victim goes home and blasts away online.
@M. Fraser I really believe we need a digital citizenship curriculum in BC--teaching the digital literacies, the citizenship, the ethics, and the safety part. We need to build a framework to ease our kids into full participation in the internet--working through adults-->fenced systems (like closed social networks hosted by school districts & directly supervised)-->working up to participation in more open systems.
Let me comment about the wider societal problem of bullying. The most powerful teacher is what we model and practice in our homes, our schools and the community...so if we bully each other then this is what our young people learn. This is why bullying and cyberbullying is not just a problem with youth, and we need to address it more widely.