Thanks for joining us. We're hosting this live blog because virtually everyone online and on social media is talking about this today. The tragic death of Amanda Todd reminding us that bullies live in our midst and continue to taunt children. As much "help" as their currently is, it hasn't eliminated the problem of bullying and cyber bullying. But we can have hope ...and conversation helps build that hope. Thank you to our three guests, Wanda Cassidy, Julia Hengstler and Karen Moss. We are so pleased you are here, helping provide answers that are so urgently needed. And thanks to all of the participants for your valuable questions. Jill Krop
Karen why don't you answer Theresa's question ? please ..
Our pleasure Nadine ... our duty really.
There are models in other countries where there are integrated responses to "e-safety incidents". One of the best I've come across is Kent County Council in the UK. Give me a sec and I"ll pull up an eg.
Julia perhaps you can answer Lauren's question ..
It can be really frustrating when you don't see consequences for others negative actions. It is really important to continue to support your children through all of this as they are most important. We should continue to report and provide emotional support.
Wanda, would you be so kind as to answer Worried Nonna
Lillian this is a fantastic question. Any one of our three guests can provide suggestions I'm sure!
Wanda, you cover this from a "legal" point of view ... What is the status of "bullying" in a legal context?
Just grabbing the reference
Lillian-great question. If you go to our www.imaginenobullying.ca website you will find a video called How to Help: A Yoth Perspective on Bullying where youth talk about how to gain trust with them and how they would like parents to help them through bullying situations. I hope this helps!
Harassment is a crime, as is libel and the online versions can be punishable. But often cyberbullying doesn't get to the courts. However, in some cases the police should be involved. A good example is the girl in Nova Scotia who is taking her cyberbully to court in a civil suit and recently gained permission from the Supreme Court of Canada to maintain her (the victim) anonymity.
Just so our participants know Wanda Cassidy shows up as cassidy .
to add to Karen's resources & comments, the recent MTV/AP research on cyberbullying among 14-24 year olds in US found that telling another person--friend, parent, police--helped end the bullying. That said--if I remember the stat's 100%--in about 14% of the cases, the victims felt this made the situation worse.
Worried Nonna ...good question about how kids seemingly slip through the cracks ... any of our guest care to chime in ?
Dougb-When a young person is afraid to go to school, doesn't want to be social, has low self esteem, has trouble sleeping and eating and generally changes from their normal behaviour-these are all signs. If you go to www.prevnet.ca you can find more tips there.
Shari-The Canadian Red Cross has a bullying prevention program where youth present anti bullying messaging to younger students. This is very successful as older peers are seen as role models. We cover social media in this program. Visit www.imaginenobullying.ca to find out more
Cassidy, if we're taking a wider perspective, I truly believe that the issue of cyberbullying should really be bigger and look at digital citizenship. I think we're doing a lot to define what "unacceptable" behaviour is online & with technology--but a poorer job defining what "good" behaviour looks like--because we are still building consensus in our society re. what that looks/sounds like.
Julia can you talk about social media making it easier for bullies ...question posed by Tabatha
KarenT- Really listen to your child before reacting and work with your child to find the solutions. It could be a combination of things happening for your child or the other child. Children these days don't know how to deal with stress and anxiety and helping them learn these skills will help with build confidence.
Back to Shari's question--one thing that research is showing is that girls 13-15 are among our most vulnerabe populations for this.
No SChow ..your message wasn't lost, just in a long lineup! Good question
Re the question about how "kids fall between the cracks..." we know that those who have been bullied do show symptoms (anxiety, depressions, acting out behaviour, poor grades in school), but too often adults are not attuned to the problems of an individual student and I know from my research that fewer than 50% of young people will tell the school and less that 3/4 will tell a parent. They are most likely to tell their peers, but often it is a "friend" who is participating in the bullying, or too often the friend doesn't take it that seriously or doesn't know how to help. We need to provide opporunities for dialogue in non-threatening environments.